LET IT BE LATE

Happy last week of April as we officially head into Taurus season! Happy birthday to all my dear Tauruses and to all my Aries, I hope you had a fabulous birthday season! I know that I was certainly busy celebrating all the Aries babies in my family. That’s why I decided to take a break from blogging to rest from all the family activities! 

As the end of the month nears, I received notifications from my Google Photos of all my big life transitions from the past seven years ago. In April of 2018, I decided to move from Wisconsin to Minnesota for some big and life changing opportunities and I wouldn’t be here right now, blogging, doing my Youtube, and content creation if I didn’t decide to make this job. 

I had been a Social Worker for 10 years already before I decided to really pursue getting my clinical hours to become a Therapist. Looking back, I had to be honest, I was all about chasing the $$ but I also knew that eventually, because I didn’t have the right credentials, I was going to reach my ceiling earning where I would max out my earning potential. 

Besides feeling stuck professionally, I was also feeling stuck personally. The city that I grew up in was small, hardly had any social areas that didn’t involve getting drunk every weekend, and we had very limited dining options. I was bored and my soul yearned for me even though the thought of getting out of my comfort zone felt terrifying. But during the early parts of 2018, that had to be my unhappiest time of my life. 

Oh and by the way, I also got fired on Valentine’s Day from my community based mental health job after I advocated for myself. I have absolutely no regrets and after I was fired, I lived off of unemployment benefits and was given time back to rest and formulate a new plan. During this time, I spent time with my parents and young niece. The best part of my day was going to the YMCA during the day and not having to feel rushed or compete in using the exercise machines with the regular 9-5 people. 

At this point in my life, I was about 35 years old. I remember people kept asking me when I was going to get married, buy a house, have kids, and all the traditional things that I should have achieved by then. The city that I was from would have offered me all the comforts of safety and the traditional lifestyle if I had wanted. Very cookie cutter and midwest. However, in my heart, I knew that I was always meant for me even though everyone thought I was delusional for believing that I deserved more. 

People have always tried to project their fears, failures, and regrets onto me because I live a very unconventional life, especially for a Hmong woman. People and especially other women will tell me that I will have regrets if I don’t do this or do that; and honestly, if I wasn’t such a strong, willful person, those projections would have crippled me. 

All my life, I have been shamed, made to feel bad, and lesser than because I didn’t “achieve milestones” when I was supposed to. I’ve been questioned about my sexual orientation, told to lose weight, and been accused of being high maintenance, because I knew my worth, value, and loved myself. I was actually told that I loved myself way too much and I had to humble myself if I wanted to find someone who would settle for me! 

I’ve been a late bloomer all my life. I’ve always been someone who could never get it right on the first try and because of this, I’ve had to work extra hard, put in a lot of effort, fail not only once, sometimes, twice, and even a third time before I can finally get it right or pass. Because of this, I’ve learned to appreciate and embrace all that I am and have. 

Our society  is obsessed with meeting timelines, fitting in, and being told that we should hate ourselves when we don’t meet the standards of  success, beauty, or other external validation. We are told that we are less than perfect if we choose to take our time, figure out who we are or want, and especially when our choices make other people uncomfortable. 

As someone who used to be confused about why I received my gifts so late in life, I now understand and appreciate all the lateness. I realized that I was meant to know, love, and align myself with things that truly matter and for me to not do things out of fear, scarcity, and desperation. 

I know that in order for me to live my life with authenticity, I had to  learn how to ground myself, stay rooted, and know how to handle the adversaries and challenges as they come. I also had to practice and embrace gratitude, be grateful, learn to lead with love and hope instead of comparison, anger, and bitterness. 

To my dear readers who feel that they are behind in life. I want to assure you that you are NOT. You are exactly where you are supposed to be and sometimes, you have to let it be late on purpose. 

In a world that is obsessed with urgency, hustle, and “right on time,” giving yourself permission to not rush is radical and necessary; here’s why: 

• Timing Is a Spiritual Filter: When something is “late,” it forces you to ask: Do I really want this? Am I doing it for me or for validation? Am I ready—or am I just rushing to fill a status quo? These questions are meant to be intentional that will help you lead your life with purpose. Remember, what's meant for you will arrive when you’re actually ready to carry it! 

• Late Isn’t Wrong—It’s Just Honest: Being late means that you were still learning, needed to learn the lessons, and then needed to heal. Life was protecting you from premature success, from inauthenticity, and especially from the unsafe people who wanted to use you for their own purposes. There’s a difference between being delayed and being denied.
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  Pace Protects Your Peace: In a world of competition and comparison, rushing often leads to: burnout, people pleasing, accepting half assed ideas, and dismissing red flags. Instead, when you accept lateness, it will bring clarity, have depth, you’ll stick to your boundaries, and you’ll know how you wish to proceed with your intentions. Whenever in doubt, a reminder, your slow season might just be your soul season.

• Your Path Isn’t Supposed to Match Theirs: We live in a world of comparison that will convince you that you're behind. Social media likes to portray the fast money, the hot bodies, the fancy cars, and luxury brands but behind all that facade, there is insecurity and the constant need for validation. Your life was not built in competition; You are a custom design babe who is built to last. 

• Letting It Be Late Creates Room for Alignment: The thing is when you stop forcing things to be “on time,” you open the door for: divine timing, aligned opportunities, be clearer on decisions, and most importantly, have more peace! Late doesn’t mean lost—it means right on time in a way you couldn’t yet see. It was all working behind the scenes. 
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There you go my darlings. I recently uploaded a video on my Youtube discussing how patience was the one trait that I had to learn to embrace as I forged my own path. When you don’t embrace patience, you’re going to always question and compare your journey to others.

My dear Queens, you were meant to have and be late because you’re special. When things are obtained later in life, you learn to appreciate, cherish, and your heart and soul is aligned to that purpose. My final words are: "Letting it be late is how you trust the timing, the process, and your own evolution. You’re not behind. You’re just becoming.” 😘