The In-Between Phase: Why Nothing Seems to Be Working

Hey hey, my darlings— ✨

Happy post–St. Patrick’s Day 🍀

I hope you all are staying sane in this ever-changing world and getting enough rest with this time change—because let me tell you, it takes me a good week (sometimes two… yikes 😅) to adjust. My days have just been flying by.

We are in the middle of March—and if there’s one thing about March, it’s that it’s a bridge month.

As I sit here writing this week’s Realignment Journal, the sun is shining, the wind is making its presence known, and the recent snowfall reminds us that winter is not over yet ❄️

Just a week ago, it felt like spring.
People were outside. Dogs were out. Families were soaking in the warmth like we had made it through ☀️

And then—just like that—winter again.

As shared in previous journals, the start of this year has been heavy for many of us. We’ve witnessed decisions and actions that have been hard to process.

And yet, we’ve also seen something else—
the power of people,
and the reminder that humanity still shows up for one another.

March is a reflection month.
But more than that—it is a month of in-betweens.

Lately, I’ve been reflecting on my own progress—internally and externally.

Internally, there has been so much growth.
Things I’ve come to terms with… ways I’ve shown up for myself… things I would have never given myself in my earlier years.

But externally?

It can look like nothing has moved.

And we live in a world that only recognizes what can be seen.
What can be measured.
What can be applauded.

This past week, I had some major breakthroughs in my work.
Wins that I’ve been building toward for a long time.

And yet—those wins were celebrated quietly.
In my journal.
In reflection.
In stillness 🤍

And the funny thing is… even in the midst of that—

I still get asked:
“What are you doing?”
“Are you jobless?” (shoutout to my nieces… lol 😭)

And I won’t lie—those questions used to trigger me.

But I’ve learned something:

People who don’t understand your path will question it—
especially when your life doesn’t resemble what they recognize.

And that’s when it hit me—

This month isn’t just in-between seasons.

It’s an in-between season in life.

One day it feels like spring—warm, hopeful, like something is finally opening.
The next day, winter comes back like it never left.

Just when we think we’ve moved forward, something shifts again.

And we’re reminded:

Transition is not clean.
It’s not predictable.
It doesn’t move on our timeline.

Right now, we’re moving from one season into another— a season of reflection… into a season of action.

And the space in between?

It can feel slow.
Uncertain.
Like nothing is happening—even when everything is.

Because the in-between doesn’t look like progress.

There’s no clear momentum.
No loud confirmation.
No visible reward.

Just quiet.
Just repetition.
Just showing up—without knowing when things will shift.

And if we’re honest—this is where doubt creeps in.

This is where we start asking:

Is this working?
Am I doing enough?
Should something have happened by now?

But the in-between was never meant to validate us.

It was meant to build us.

And maybe that’s what this season is really asking of us—

Not perfection.
Not constant momentum.

But consistency.
Grit.
The willingness to keep showing up for ourselves—
even when nothing outside of us is reflecting it back.

Because this journey… this realignment…

It requires a different kind of trust.

The kind where the external world hasn’t caught up to you yet—
but internally, you know.

You wake up each day and choose to see yourself.

Some days, that’s hard.

And some days, you sit back and realize—

wow… this is a win. ✨

Not the kind the world applauds.

But the kind that quietly changes everything.

And maybe this is the part we don’t talk about enough—

Everyone prepares you for the beginning.
The courage it takes to start.
The moment you decide, I’m doing this.

And everyone celebrates the end—
when it all comes together,
when people finally see you.

But the in-between?

The in-between is where you see yourself—
the most.

Before the recognition.
Before the validation.
Before anyone else understands what you’re building.

And that’s what makes it hard.

Because you’re holding a version of yourself that no one else can see yet.

And still—you keep showing up.

Not because it’s being rewarded.

But because you know.

And that’s where alignment is tested.
That’s where sovereignty is formed.

Empress Darlings
No crowns.
No performance.

Just Alignment.✨