🍁 Happy Second Week of October! Woot Woot!

How are my lovelies doing? I hope you’re soaking in this gorgeous fall weather as much as I am. After endless complaining about that hot-ass, never-ending summer, we are finally basking in Fall! 🍂

On my actual birthday, it was 87 degrees — um, no thanks! Still, I kept my cool  by rewarding myself with a facial and a massage. Let me tell you… it was the perfect birthday gift to myself. 🎂

What else did I do for my birthday week? Let’s start with the “responsible adult” stuff — renewing my driver’s license (hello, Real ID!) and accepting my photo as is. I’ve reached the point where I no longer fight the DMV camera. For those of you who somehow have amazing ID photos — lucky you! The rest of us simply accept it and move on. 😂

Aside from errands, I stayed busy with events and catching up with people. Since I work remotely, I hardly leave the house — but during my week off, I was out nearly every day. Totally unlike me! And honestly… it wore me out.

So this week, I’m gifting myself something different — the gift of time. I’m easing back in, doing what I love, and that of course includes writing this blog. 💻

During my week off, I did a lot of reflecting — especially on my birthday. I gave thanks for what I’m grateful for and set my intentions for the next year. Most people wait until January for resolutions, but October is my new year. It’s when I reset, release, and realign. I like to start early — to get ahead of my ideas and make sure I stay consistent when the calendar flips.

And this year, something powerful came through during that reflection — something that I’ve lived, witnessed, and now finally have the words to say.

Honest Truth 🌱

We all live and strive for stability — it’s human nature. Safety and steadiness give us roots. They help us grow, heal, and nourish ourselves.

But what happens when the very thing meant to ground us begins to cage us?

When stability becomes a box we dare not step out of, because outside that box lies uncertainty, discomfort… and truth?

What if that same stability — the one we prayed for, worked for, and clung to — is quietly cutting off our oxygen?

What if the walls we built for safety are now the very ones suffocating our becoming?

Because sometimes, what feels like peace is just stillness that’s stopped breathing.

And sometimes, the only way to really live…

Is to step beyond the box and remember how to breathe again.

🔥 When Stability Destroys You

I know this is going to be a controversial blog. Not because it’s bad, but because it’s real.

Three years ago, I had to choose between stability and growth. I could have stayed on the stable path — the steady paycheck, the predictable routine, the applause from people who thought that was success. But deep down, I knew it was slowly destroying me.

That realization didn’t come easy. I grew up poor, in a large refugee family. All we ever wanted was stability. A good, stable job meant we had made it. And to be honest — we did. But then came the question I couldn’t silence: Is this it? Why am I yearning for more? Why am I different and not grateful for all that I have?

Part of that question came from my work. For years, I worked with people living with chronic and terminal illnesses. Over and over, I heard their regrets — the dreams they never chased, the risks they never took. And one day, I asked myself the same question I often asked them:
If I were to go tomorrow, would I have regrets?

The answer was yes.

I realized that stability was destroying me because it was too predictable. I wasn’t truly forging my own path. I wasn’t living it. And I was definitely not owning it. That’s when I knew I had to step off the “safe” road and build Your Own Pathway. 🦋

🍁 October’s Lesson

October doesn’t sugarcoat. The air sharpens. The leaves blaze, then let go. The harvest arrives only because months ago, someone dared to plant in uncertainty and hoping for the best. October is nature’s bold truth-teller: everything has a season — and what no longer serves you must be released.

That’s the lens I’m writing from today. I’m not here to shame stability — I’m here to remind you that clinging to it too tightly can quietly cost you everything.

And yes, there’s a privilege to this truth. I want to acknowledge that. Not everyone can just walk away from stability — and I honor that reality. But I also believe this: when you’re ready, you find a way. It won’t happen overnight. It might take months — even years — of planning, saving, reviewing your resources, and leaning into your strengths. But readiness grows with courage. You don’t have to leap blindly — you can build your wings as you go. 🕊️

 This week's blog is all about when playing it safe no longer serves you and when it's time for you to transform stability into a soul aligned life:

 🍃Stability turns into stagnation.

What feels steady at first can become suffocating. The same routine. The same predictable path. Stagnation kills growth, and without growth, you’re not living — you’re existing. October reminds us: even the leaves let go when it’s time.  It's groundhogs day over and over and over again. 🍂

🍃 Stability numbs desire.

When everything is “fine,” it’s easy to guilt yourself into staying put. “I should just be grateful.” But gratitude without fulfillment is a cage. Over time, stability convinces you to silence your own dreams until you forget you ever had them. That’s how you lose yourself. Once you lose yourself, it's hard to find yourself again. Most people find that they've been playing a role that wasn't for them. Ouch!

🍃Stability trades passion for predictability.

Yes, your bills are paid. Yes, your life looks responsible. But does it set you on fire? 🔥 Does it make you feel alive? Are you excited to get up and start your day?  If not, then stability has become a slow leak draining your joy. Happiness isn’t built on predictable comfort — it’s built on passion and alignment.

🍃Stability disguises burnout.

A “stable” life often comes with heavy responsibility — mortgages, career ladders, family expectations. You call it stability, but underneath, you’re exhausted, stretched thin, running on autopilot. That’s not peace. That’s destruction disguised as duty. And we're all feeling it! Especially in this country where we have limited vacation and sick leave, minimal parental leave, and are expected to be loyal and grateful to employers who can dump us at anytime without warning.

🍃 Stability robs you of risk — and reward.

The most meaningful harvests are born from uncertainty — from the moments you dared to plant seeds with no promise they’d take root.  Starting the business. Walking away from “fine.” Saying yes to your own becoming. October doesn’t hoard — it releases, so something new can bloom with life. The trees don’t panic when they shed their leaves; they trust that letting go is how they make space for what’s next. Maybe that’s the real lesson — sometimes you have to risk the fall to rise stronger in your next season.

🍁🍁 Here’s the October Truth:
Stability isn’t always safety. Sometimes, it’s the very thing quietly draining your joy.
It’s the reason your dreams never make it past your journal/vision board
The reason you feel half-alive — safe, but stuck.

October doesn’t whisper — it reveals.
It teaches us to let go, to risk, to trust the cycles of release and renewal.
It reminds us that you can’t harvest new fruit if you’re too afraid to shed old leaves.

So, don’t confuse survival with abundance.
Don’t confuse “fine” with fulfilled.

✨ This month, choose differently.

So darlings, I end this week's blog with some real, raw, and yet empowering words for all of you to consider; especially if stability is blocking your growth, passion, and purpose.
Stop mistaking stability for joy.
Stop letting “stable” destroy your fire.

The leaves don’t cling when it’s time to fall — neither should you.
Stability may keep you alive,
but courage…
Courage is what lets you truly live

And Queens, It's Time To Step Boldly Into Your Next Season! 🍂🔥👑