Stop Settling for Crumbs

Happy full last week of September, my Dears!

And OMG — Libra Season is officially here! ♎️ Remember when I told you I wasn’t going to shut up about it? Well…it’s here, and nope, I’m not shutting up about it (sorry not sorry! 😘). But hey — at least you all get a week off from me talking about Libra season while I take my

birthday break 🎉. Enjoy the breather while it lasts!

Honestly, I feel like I just celebrated my birthday — and here it is again. What a difference a year makes! Last year, I was swimming in uncertainty, changes, and fear. I wanted so much, but I was scared of the outcomes.

This year? Still plenty of uncertainty, unknowns, and what-ifs. The difference? I’m not letting fear run the show. I’ve surrendered. I’m going with the flow. And as I tell all of you — I can’t control everything, but I can control how I show up: with consistency, faith, belief, and the knowing that I’m doing my damn best every single day. And guess what? I’m proud to say I’m doing a damn good job of it. 💪

Last year, I wouldn’t have praised myself like that. But the silence, the lessons, and the tests have shaped me. I’ve journaled, I’ve meditated in silence, and I’ve screamed into the pages: “HAVE I NOT BEEN TESTED ENOUGH ALREADY?!” Turns out, I had more to learn — especially about my worth, my value, and the fact that I no longer accept lame-ass crumbs.

The Story That Sparked This Week’s Blog

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So here’s what lit this fire: I got approached for a job. On paper? Looked interesting. I thought, “Okay, sweet — keep an open mind, don’t close off opportunities.”

But as the interview unfolded, it became crystal clear there was some serious miscommunication between the hiring manager and the owner. When I explained why I even agreed to the interview, the owner looked shocked and admitted there was a misalignment.

Translation? They thought I’d accept the crumbs. 🙄

It was one of the most awkward interviews I’ve had as a professional. By the grace of the universe (or maybe my ancestors looking out for me 👀), the interviewer’s tech crashed, and I used that chance to end it early. Afterwards, I laughed out loud — because honestly? I knew better. I wasn’t about to sit at a table of scraps when I know I deserve the feast.

Why September Is the Perfect Time

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We may be closing out September and welcoming Libra season, but this month has always been about resets. Summer slows down, routines return, and the energy shifts. September whispers: reflect, realign, raise your standards.

This isn’t January’s “New Year, New You.” September is sharper. More intentional. It’s harvest season — time to gather the fruits of your labor, not settle for scraps. That’s why the end of September is the perfect moment to stop accepting crumbs and finally claim your feast. And let’s be real: why wait until the holidays to start feasting? 🎉

The Truth (No Chaser)

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Ladies, we’ve been conditioned to be grateful for almost enough:
Almost the salary. Almost the title. Almost the love. Almost the respect.

We over-explain, over-deliver, and under-receive.

That ends now. You are not a beggar at your own table.

What “Crumbs” Look Like

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Let’s call them out:

• At work: “Great job!” with no raise. “Stretch projects” with no promotion path. “We’ll revisit this at your next eval”… while Jon, who started yesterday, already has two promotions.
• In relationships: sporadic effort, emotional IOUs, “I’m not ready for labels” after months of access to your heart (and your body).
• With yourself: promising rest but cramming in one more thing. Calling it “self-care” when it’s actually self-abandoning.
• Financially: apologizing for your rates, discounting before they even ask, waiting for permission to charge your worth.

Why We Accept Crumbs (and how to unlearn it)

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• Scarcity script: “If I let this go, nothing better will come.”
  – Reframe: If it slips through your fingers, it wasn’t meant for your hands.
• Good girl training: be agreeable, be grateful, be nice.
  – Reframe: Being agreeable is not your job description — it’s a cage.
• Trauma + loyalty to struggle: love = labor, worth = sacrifice.
  – Reframe: love = presence, worth = being.
• Fog of almost: they give just enough to keep you confused.
  – Reframe: consistency is clarity; inconsistency is an answer.

The Feast Table Inventory

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We think of feast season as Thanksgiving or Christmas. But truth? Feast season starts now.

If you wait until the holidays to “celebrate,” you’ll roll into them stressed and starving. A true feast isn’t just food — it’s your mental, emotional, and spiritual table being prepared long before the turkey hits the oven.

That’s what September is for: training yourself to set boundaries, decide what you will and won’t accept, and claim your seat before the season even begins.

On My Table This Fall: clarity, courage, community, joy, rest, abundance.
Off My Table This Fall: confusion, inconsistency, excuses, scarcity, crumbs.

Your table is sacred. You decide what gets served.

The Feast Manifesto 🔥

Say it with me, bold and loud:

• I am not grateful for crumbs.
• I am worthy of consistency, clarity, and care.
• I don’t beg for access — I build rooms.
• I don’t chase — I choose.
• My peace is not negotiable.
• I am the feast.

Print it. Repeat it. Live it.

Closing Out September — The Feast Awaits 🎉

September has been the harvest. It revealed the crumbs you’ve been tolerating and dared you to clear your table. You’ve raised the standards. And here’s the truth: crumbs will never satisfy a Queen who was built for the feast.

Now October is knocking — and I’m walking into it unapologetic, abundant, and on fire. 🔥 And yes, I’ll be taking the first week off to celebrate my birthday 🥳 because even Queens rest, reset, and revel in their glow.

 Stop begging for crumbs. Celebrate the feast. Step into October with your head high and your standards higher.

I’ll see you all in October — full, fierce, and ready for more. The feast is waiting; and Queens — so are we. ✨👑✨