Why You Must Be Elitist

Happy September and Happy Birthday to my Virgo babes! ♍✨

I’m back to work this week, and I won’t lie — I missed it. But I also gave myself permission to ease back in. Because let’s be real: I no longer like to rush into work. And while not everyone has that luxury, I’m both thankful and blessed that I do.

So tell me — how did the first week of September go for you? Most of us had that long Labor Day weekend, and here in Minnesota, students headed back to school right after. A few of my family members came back from the holiday saying, “It’s been a long week!!” And honestly? I can only imagine.

Meanwhile, I spent my week relaxing, catching up on priorities I’d been putting off, and letting myself enjoy it instead of rushing through. I went to a networking/social gathering event that aligned with my purpose, and I also escaped to a cabin by the lake. Peaceful. Cozy. Very “fall girl at the lake” vibes. 🍂

Virgo Season Energy ♍

I love the “-ber” months — September, October, November, December — they just feel different. And September? It carries a sharp, refreshing energy.

I recently went to an event hosted by a fabulous friend where we celebrated Virgo season and reflected on how this season is all about going within.

Now, y’all know I’m a Libra baby (because I shout it all the time), but I also have lots of Virgo in me. Virgo 🌙 baby here! Once I learned that, I was like… damn. Suddenly all my “I’m in my head” tendencies made sense. (Also, Kylie Minogue’s Can’t Get You Out of My Head is literally playing in my brain right now 😂). 

And listen — Virgo energy is a blessing and a challenge. On one hand, it makes us precise, thoughtful, and deeply intentional. On the other, it can tip into judgmental, perfectionist, second-guessing energy that keeps us from just going for it.

I’ve also been told more than once that I can come across as “bossy” or “elitist.” OOOFF! At first, I was like, hold up — I’m not snobby or arrogant! But during my week off, I shared this with a women’s group, and they reframed it beautifully for me. They said: “Being elitist isn’t negative. It’s about having standards, raising the bar, and refusing to apologize for it.”

And you know what? They’re right.

Why Be “Elitist”?

The September air sharpens, routines reset, and Virgo reminds us to refine, edit, and level up. This isn’t about starting over — it’s about stepping higher.

So let’s reclaim this word. “Elitist” doesn’t mean arrogant. It doesn’t mean superior. It means being unapologetically discerning with your time, your energy, your circle, and your standards.

Ladies, the truth is: when you’re forging your own path, you can’t afford to play small. You can’t afford to keep lowering the bar just to make everyone else comfortable.

Being “elitist” is about protecting what matters most — your vision, your energy, and your future. And if you’re not protective, then everyone and everything will think they have a right to YOU.

But when you’re ELITE? The riff-raff, the unhealed, the boundaryless, the low-standard chaos people — they don’t even dare approach you. Your aura screams NO BS allowed. And that’s exactly the energy we’re stepping into this season.

Here’s Why You Have to Embrace Being ELITE if You’re Serious About Forging Your Path 🍂

✨ Elitism as Energy Protection
Your path requires focus, clarity, and fuel. If you’re giving your energy away to distractions, gossip, or people who don’t get it, you’re leaking power. Being elitist here means saying: Not everyone gets access to me. My energy is not free. My presence is earned. Only the BEST of the BEST, babes — and say it louder for the people in the back!

✨ Elitism as Standard-Setting
September is the reset button. Virgo thrives on detail and excellence. So why would you accept half-hearted effort, broken promises, or crumbs? Being elitist is deciding: Average won’t cut it. Breadcrumbs are canceled. Bare minimum is out. Your dreams now demand effort and excellence.

✨ Elitism as Self-Respect
We’ve been conditioned to be everything for everyone. But hear me: you’re not for everybody — and that’s the whole damn point. Diluting yourself to please the crowd robs you of the very fire that makes you unstoppable. Elitism means honoring your worth and saying: I don’t lower my standards to belong. I rise higher to honor myself.

✨ Elitism as Zero Tolerance for Bullshit
Let’s be blunt: being elitist means you don’t mess around with BS. No empty conversations, no performative friendships, no draining spaces. People will call you “difficult” or “elitist” when you stop tolerating excuses and chaos. But in reality? You’re just crystal clear. You know who you are. You know what you want. And you refuse to apologize for it. Amen to that, darling.

✨ Elitism as Legacy Building
Forging your path isn’t just about you. It’s about the ripple effect — the people who will walk through the doors you’re building today. Legacy requires standards. Legacy requires refusing crumbs. Legacy demands excellence even when no one’s watching. You’re breaking the mold and writing the blueprint for those who follow.

✨ Elitism as Boundary Mastery
When you raise your standards, you will be tested. People will question your choices, push your limits, and try to guilt you back into playing small. Elitism means standing tall and saying: This is my boundary. It’s not negotiable. Boundaries aren’t walls — they’re the architecture that keeps your path intact.

✨ Elitism as Alignment
When you treat your energy as elite, you naturally align with elite opportunities, partnerships, and results. The universe responds to the standards you set. If you’re casual, you’ll attract casual. If you’re intentional, refined, and unapologetic? You’ll attract doors meant only for the bold.

As September and Virgo season demand refinement and reset, this is your invitation to be “elitist.” Not because you’re better than others — but because your future deserves nothing less than your best.

Babes, when forging your own path, you don’t need universal approval. You need loyalty to yourself.

Be elitist about your standards.
Be elitist about your energy.
Be elitist about your circle.

Because your feast doesn’t require crumbs — it requires courage.

The courage to walk away from what no longer serves you.
The courage to demand more when the world tells you to settle.
The courage to be called “elitist” — and wear it as a crown. 👑

You weren’t born to nibble scraps or fight for leftovers. Nope. You were born to build the table, decide who sits at it, and serve a vision worthy of your future.

So stop apologizing. Stop shrinking. Stop explaining yourself to people committed to misunderstanding you.

Your path is yours alone. And the moment you claim it with elite standards, unapologetic boundaries, and zero tolerance for bullshit — you step into the power you were always meant to carry.

That’s not elitism. That’s self-mastery. And it’s the only way forward. 💕