Stop Chasing What Was Never Meant to Run

Another great week to all you fabulous ladies out there. I hope you all had a restful and stayed cool during another hot weekend! 

This past weekend was an exhausting weekend. I was on babysitting/auntie duty as  we said goodbye to an extended family member who passed away. This person was so young and passed due to health related issues. This is a reminder that we’re not all guaranteed life and to appreciate and cherish each day. My exhaustion was attributed to helping  out by babysitting two 2 yr olds and a 3 yr old so their parents can attend and grieve as needed. 

Life is so short even though the days can creep by slowly, getting to the weekend seems like an eternity, and the weekends soar in a blink of an eye. We think we have all the time in the world until a life changing event happens that makes us finally slow down and prioritize what is important to us.

It’s really made me reflect on my own life and any regrets that I may have. Last year, I made a promise to myself that I would never say “imagine where you would be if you had only.” That was one intention for 2025 that I promised to make to myself. That I would never wonder and allow my fears, judgement from others, and my own insecurities stop me from doing what I want to do. Even if the outcomes are not what I had hoped for, I would rather have started, know, and be proud that I had enough courage to begin than have regrets. 

As a result of this, I started a vlog as part of Your Own Pathway series. I’ve had several people tell me that I should start one. I thought “Me? Ugh! My life is sooo boring!” What can people possibly want to know about me?” But that got me thinking about all my interactions with people personally and professionally.  I feel that this blog is almost like my vlog, except all of you get to read my feelings and emotions as I too, forge my own path and OWN IT.  I am very honest in my writings, tell it how it is, and have been very open about my journey and the path that I am taking. 

Starting a vlog would mean being even more vulnerable by sharing all my struggles on the day to day of being a solo entrepreneur and the personal side of me as a person and why I am so passionate about Your Own Pathway and OWNING IT. Some days it’s showing the side of not OWNING IT and that is part of OWNING IT. 

It’s funny how my perspective can change in a few months, weeks, and even days. A big  part of my daily ritual is silence, reflection, introspection, in hopes of receiving clarity about all the aspects of my life. One of the biggest Aha moments was when I realized that I have been   chasing.  Heck, as youngsters we’ve been taught to chase. Chase your dreams, chase what you want, chase and find the love of your life, chase this, chase that, and once you finally get that chase, you’ll be happy! 

When I think of chasing, something that suddenly comes to my mind is when a predator is chasing its prey. The predator plans, hides, and waits patiently to startle its prey in hopes of getting a meal. Sometimes, they get their prey and lots of times, they fail, are exhausted, and have to wait and plan again. 

I know what you all are thinking, “Poiab! What the hell does that have anything to do with this week’s blog?” Hear me out and let me explain; when you keep chasing and you fail, it becomes EXHAUSTING, which in our human world, that equates to BURNOUT. Like the predator, when you chase, you’re always going to feel and be behind. When you chase, you’re always going to be hustling, be on autopilot, and never BE living in intention. Your nervous system can’t calm down as you’re used to being on the go constantly and surviving. Chasing was exhausting me. 

As someone who is used to chasing and surviving, when I decided that I was going to STOP chasing and start living in alignment, I’m not going to lie,  it was hella hard. Why? Because it felt lazy. As a chaser and a survivor, laziness is our kryptonite. It felt like I was just sitting around and doing nothing when I could be doing more. I always could be doing more and more and more (see the cycle here?). I could be putting out more content, increasing my views, my subscribers for my Youtube Channel, my email listing for my blog, more networking events, and the list can go on and on. I’m exhausted just writing this. 

I had to work on shifting my mindset and embrace that I don’t need to chase what was never meant to run. I’ve been running after things that I didn’t need to chase. I faithfully believe that what is meant to be mine will be mine. If they’re not meant to be,  it’s okay to let it go. Any rejection is for my protection and I will always be guided for what is aligned for me. 

This week, we’re unpacking what it truly means to stop chasing what was never meant to run — and how doing so is one of the most radical and freeing decisions a woman can make. Most of us have spent years — if not decades — chasing. Chasing love. Chasing closure. Chasing validation. Chasing a job, a title, a relationship, or a version of ourselves that was built to appease others.

But what if the very thing you’ve been chasing was never meant to run in the first place? Here is what happens when you stop chasing what was never meant to run: 

• You’ve Shifted from Proving to Choosing: You stop running after people, jobs, or spaces that make you earn your worth. You no longer hustle for validation. You stop begging to belong. Instead, you choose what’s in alignment with your values and peace. If you have to chase it, it’s not rooted in reciprocity — it's rooted in imbalance. 

•  You’ve Broken the Cycle of Self-Abandonment: You’re no longer overriding your own needs or ignoring your intuition just to keep a connection alive. You start listening to your gut, honoring your emotions, and protecting your peace. You stop asking, “How can I make this work?” and start asking, “Does this still work for me?”  You finally choose YOU; welcome home babe! 
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  . You’ve Released the Need for Closure: So many people chase closure and at some point, you realize that not everything broken needs to be fixed. Not every ending needs an explanation. You stop waiting for someone to give you closure and decide to give it to yourself. Closure isn’t a conversation. It’s a decision.

•  You’ve Reclaimed Your Power: Stopping the chase means you no longer give your energy to people or situations that don’t pour back into you. You become selective, intentional, and rooted in self-worth. You protect your energy like the sacred resource it is and this resource is part of your everyday currency. Just not anyone gets access to you. 

•  You’ve Moved Into Self-Trust: You no longer believe that effort equals worth. You believe what is meant for you will recognize you, choose you, and root with you without confusion, chaos, or constant pursuit. Remember: what is truly aligned with you will not run from you. It will rise to meet you.

Does this list feel familiar? Almost all the points resonated with me. I’ve been a chaser all my life. No wonder I was so unhappy even though externally and paper-wise, I looked damn good. Once I accomplished the chase, it felt..empty.  I was always looking for something to fulfill me and as a result, I chased the wrong titles and people. 

Ladies, when you stop chasing what was never meant to run, you stop betraying yourself. You stop shrinking. You stop auditioning. You stop playing a role. 

What happens instead? You begin choosing. You begin attracting. You begin healing and start seeing and feeling clarity. 

So, if you find that you’re still chasing, this week, give yourself permission to pause, let go, and trust that anything you have to chase was never going to fulfill you anyway.

Darlings, let’s get honest and real here: where in your life have you been chasing  that’s already told you it isn’t for you? Are you still trying to convince them or yourself? If so, let’s start reclaiming your energy and redirecting it back towards you. Stop abandoning yourself and come back home hon! 

OWNING IT means being real and honest with yourself.  As I always say, I’m not here to tell you what to do; this blog and all the work that I put out there is a guide for you to decide what you want to do with the information and resources that are provided for you. My final words are whatever you do, DON’T LOSE YOURSELF IN THE CHASE. COME HOME TO YOUR PATH, REST, AND ALLOW ALIGNMENT TO FIND YOU. 🪴