Take a Bow

Hey hey! Another week zooms by, and just like that — Cancer season is behind us and we’ve officially stepped into Leo Season! ♌️🔥

Happy Birthday to all the bold, radiant Leos out there!

This time of year is always lively in my family — we’ve got five birthdays to celebrate during Leo season alone! And yes, they bring all the fire. Three of them are kids, so you can imagine the energy — loud, proud, and full of life. They don’t just embrace their inner fire... they let it blaze!

Leo season is a powerful reminder to take up space, own your light, and lead with heart. Let’s roar into this next chapter with boldness and joy. 💛

It’s been a very productive week. I almost debated about putting out this week’s blog but I started drinking a diet coke and then suddenly, I have all this pent up energy! I’ve been productive in recording my youtube episodes, busy with Cadre (a Mental Health App that I do content for), and I also started learning to add music to my youtube episodes! I am not going to downplay this achievement because as someone who is not into technology, learning how to do all of this, is a HUGE step for me. 

I hope you’ve all had a chance to read my previous blogs. Again, if not, no worries! They’re always there as a resource for you whenever you feel stuck, stagnant, judged, shamed, lost, or just need positive reminders. 

Of late, my blogs have really focused on resetting and unlearning so much shit that society, parents/family, and religion, have taught us that we need to tolerate, ignore, and accept. As you all will hear me say, F That! 

You know what else I’m saying F that to?

The script I never auditioned for — and the role I never chose. As a young girl, I was handed a script and told this was who I had to be. That I couldn’t change. That I couldn’t grow. That I had to keep performing a role that no longer fit me.

Even when I outgrew the character.
Even when the storyline felt suffocating.
Even when I was ready to evolve.

But here’s the truth: I’m not here to keep acting in a play that was never mine. I’m here to write a new one — on my terms.

And the moment I dared to want more — to try on new roles, to evolve, to dream beyond what was assigned to me — I was called ungrateful. Selfish. Like I thought I was better for wanting different.

But here’s the truth:
I’m not here to shrink to fit the version of me that made others comfortable.

I’m not playing that role anymore.

I’m taking a deep bow, blowing kisses to the crowd, and walking proudly off that stage as the curtains close; because the next act?  I’m writing it myself  and I certainly don’t need permission to evolve.

As you can probably tell, this isn’t about a stage play — it’s about life. It’s about forging your own path, even when others insist that the one they designed for you is safer, smarter, and the only way to find happiness.

At first, you believe them — and why wouldn’t you? They’re your parents, teachers, friends, mentors, and spiritual guides. People you’ve trusted your whole life.But over time, you start to feel the cost of living a life written by someone else.

But as you continue down that path, you begin to see it for what it truly is — a path designed not to help you grow, but to keep you small. It was never about your freedom or flourishing. It was about control. You were expected to stay in line — their line — to speak the lines they wrote for you, and to perform the role they assigned. Somewhere along the way, they cast themselves as your director, without ever asking if you wanted the part.

Darlings, there comes a moment when you realize the role you’ve been playing isn’t yours anymore—or maybe, it never was.

You’ve memorized the lines. Hit your marks. Smiled on cue. Done everything the script demanded. But deep down, you know:

This isn’t your story. And it’s time to leave the stage.

So how do you bow out of the performance you were never meant to star in, and start forging your own path?

Let’s toss the old script. You’re the writer now — let’s begin your own play:

•  Acknowledge You’re in a Play: The truth can hurt and the first step is seeing it: you’ve been performing. You’ve been: 
• Performing for approval.
• Performing for safety.
• Performing for an identity that others handed you.

Maybe it’s the “good daughter,” “perfect employee,” “strong one,” or “selfless woman.” These roles may have kept you protected or accepted—but they’re not you.  As much as it hurts, it begins with awareness and acknowledgement. 

• Ask: Who Wrote This Script?: Some scripts are sooo badly written that you’re wondering “who the hell wrote this?” Most of us are living out expectations handed to us by family, culture, patriarchy, or fear. Whose voice told you that success must look like exhaustion? That love means sacrificing your needs? That worth is earned by overgiving? It’s time to stop rehearsing lines that don’t belong to you.

•  Give Yourself Permission to Exit the Stage: You’re done acting and you don’t owe anyone a performance that costs you your peace. You’re allowed to walk away from:

✨Roles that suffocate you

✨Narratives that never fit

✨Expectations that drain your soul

Let them gasp in shock. Let them question. Let them talk. You’re not here to entertain—you’re here to embody your truth as you walk away. 

• Forge a New Path Without Needing a Script: Leaving the play feels scary — because it means stepping into the unknown. You’ve spent so much of your life memorizing lines, rehearsing roles, and repeating scripts that were handed to you. It’s no wonder it feels uncomfortable to improvise. But that is exactly where your power lives. You have: 

🧭 Your truth as your compass

✨Your boundaries as your protection

🗺️ Your voice as your guide

It’s okay to start small. Say no. Say yes. Change your mind. Change your direction. The path always reveals itself as you walk it.

• Choose Your Role—Don’t Settle for a Costume: Costumes are always fun, because you get to change out of them. Now, you are the main character. It’s tot because you’re perfect. Not because you have it all figured out. But because you finally chose yourself.

This time, you write the lines. You direct the scene. You call the curtain; and guess what? You don’t need applause. You need alignment.

Ladies, we always get labeled as “difficult” whenever we challenge, set our boundaries, and  say “NO.” 

You’re not difficult—you’re just done pretending. You’re not lost—you’re leaving what was never yours.

So bow out. Not with shame, but with self-respect. Don’t do it out of fear, but in fierce self-trust.

And then, walk off that stage and step into your life. The real one. The one you don’t have to perform and carry on the facade to belong. 

Because this isn’t just your pathway—it’s your permission slip babe. 

So, it’s time to WAVE (OR YOU COULD GIVE THE FINGER) , STEP BOLDY OFF THAT STAGE , and OWN the next book of your life!

TATA DARLINGS! 🎭 💋